The Beauty of Less Stuff

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As I look around at my humble abode that I share with my boyfriend in Brooklyn, I feel proud.  I feel like I have accomplished a mission.  My home is simple, low-clutter and artful with a beautiful clear energy.  I’m not a neat-freak, but because I have a lower amount stuff in a spacious apartment, I don’t have to be.

Severals years ago,  I read “Clear Your Clutter with Feng Shui” by Karen Kingston and started getting rid of things, even old diaries that I felt held painful memories and old stagnant ways of being.   If an object inspired negativity or ambivalence, I often let it go.  Luckily, I am not very nostalgic, so this is was easy for me in certain ways. I peeled away layers and layers, disliking holding onto things that were not useful or beautiful to me.  My only stuck spot in this was if I couldn’t find a sustainable way to get rid of something like, for example,  used lipstick,  burnt-out incandescent light bulbs, broken candle votives,  etc. Did I ever regret getting rid of something?  Yes.  Admittedly, I can be a little get-rid-of happy. Three items comes to mind that I could totally use now.  Ugh.

Not only was I letting go of things, but many items in my home are sustainable (i.e second hand).  Admittedly, my initial motivation was the cost-effectiveness.  But later on, I also realized it was much greener and also began to purchase some new things, when in my price range, made of sustainable materials, like my bamboo drying rack for hanging my laundry.

Anyway, I think there is a beauty to having less that is both sustainable and liberating.  Here are some benefits of letting go of stuff and accumulating less:

  1. The energy and look of your home will be more open, spacious, airy and clear.
  2. It feels therapeutic and cleansing to let go of objects that carry ambivalent or negative associations for you.
  3. As your home becomes less cluttered and bogged down by stuff, you feel clearer and lighter inside.
  4. You’ll have less stuff to organize and clean, which means more free time and simplicity.
  5. A chance to look within and heal:  do you compulsively collect, hoard or emotionally shop rather than face some difficult feelings inside?  Perhaps, this is a time to nurture yourself in more healthy ways, like a yoga class or a nature walk, or find a therapist or insightful, caring friend to talk to.  There are also professional organizers  and declutterers that could be just what the doctor ordered.
  6. Freedom of movement: it’s easier to change residences with less stuff to pack and move.
  7. Sustainability: consuming less of the Earth’s precious resources means less deforestation, less habitat destruction, less mountain-top removal and strip mining for minerals, less pollution, less toxins, less endangered and going extinct species and the health and well-being of the human race for generations to come.  See if you can buy second hand or find a a more sustainable version of your desired or needed item.
  8. Less expensive: use that money for things that truly nurture you like buying  organic food, getting a massage,  an eco-travel adventure, taking an art class  or whatever makes your heart sing.
  9. Less stuff, less gadgets, less television and video games, means less distraction and more quality time to connect with the world around you, to connect more with friends and family, to engage positively with your community,  to follow your passions,  and to also cultivate a deeper relationship with nature.
  10. Getting rid of stuff is also an opportunity to  be generous.  Perhaps, your friends and family could use what you no longer need.  Doesn’t it feel good to give?  Perhaps, you could donate to your local charity.  Heck, you could be generous to yourself and make some money selling  your castaways on craigslist or have a yard sale.

Thank you for reading and happy spring cleaning!  Feel free to share your own inspirations on this topic in the comment section.

Love, the Earth and the greenest candle options (Part 2)

RESIZE2012 326 Thank you all for waiting patiently for Part 2 of this article to be written.    If you haven’t read Part 1, please do.  So, let’s continue the love post-Valentine’s Day and explore more important sustainable candle choices:

Choose Rainforest Alliance Certified Palm Wax candles. Palm oil and palm wax have gotten a very bad environmental rap due to the  deforestation and the destruction of orangutan habitats that most palm tree farming cause.  Fortunately, more sustainable ways of cultivating palm oil exist. Aloha Bay candles are made with Rainforest Alliance Certified Palm Wax.

Choose candles made from beeswax. Beeswax candles are another excellent Earth-friendly choice, especially from a local source and/or  sustainable beekeepers.

Stop purchasing candles made from paraffin. The majority of candles sold in the United States, unless purchased from a holistic market place and specifically labeled as made from beeswax, soy and/or palm wax,  are made from paraffin.  What is paraffin?  It’s a petroleum byproduct.  Burning it releases neurotoxins and carcinogens into the air such as toluene, benzene and hydrocarbons.  Yikes!  Burning paraffin candles also releases a superfine soot into the air which can cause irritation and damage in the lungs.  Beeswax, soy wax and palm wax candles, on the other hand, burn much more cleanly. Another downside to paraffin candles is that they are a byproduct of the very  polluting industry of fossil fuels.  Not only is serious damage done to air and waterways by oil refineries, but they also pose health risks, such as respiratory issues and cancer, to the people who live near them.

Choose eco-friendly packaging and other candle materials. Is the wick lead-free (it should be since lead wicks were outlawed in the U.S. in 2003) and made of cotton or hemp?  Is the candle naturally dyed or dye-free (you may have to contact the candle  company to find out)?  How is the candle packaged?  Does it come in a box made of post-consumer recycled content?  Does the candle sit in glass or is it a pillar candle? I like the idea of candles that come in jars (where the neck is narrower than the base) so they can be recycled or reused like you would a mason jar.  NYC Sanitation does not accept non-jar shaped glass for recycling.   I also love pillar candles and minimally packaged candles that use less resources.  I like to put my pillar candles in old candle votive containers. I’ve also seen candles nestled sweetly in glass that used to be a wine bottle.  I love creative repurposing! There are so many fun, creative green options out there to play with.  Enjoy the exploration!

Some eco-friendly, clean burning candles:

There are so many other sustainable candle makers.  I trust you will poke around on the following websites and do you own fun research:

Also, if you want to know more info about the risks of using fragrance in candles and cosmetics, read these articles:

 

Love, the Earth and the greenest candle options (Part 1)

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Today, on Valentine’s Day, I cannot help but reflect on love– the love of our planet and we the people that inhabit it. What a perfect time to resume this candle blog post that I started weeks ago.

When you light a candle, you ignite an intention: I want to create  a romantic ambiance, I want to create a peaceful atmosphere, I want to meditate, etc.   Digging more deeply, I cannot think of a better way to express intention and love than choosing products that are good for people and the Earth.  Products, such as candles, can effect us personally (self love).  They can effect our loved ones (friends and family love).  They can effect the people involved directly in their production  or  the people living near the site of where the raw materials are created or extracted (humanity love).  They can also effect the surrounding eco-systems and beyond (planet love).

So, in what ways can you create some interconnected love with your green, eco-friendly candle choices?

Choose candles scented with essential oils

When you smell a scented candle, its scent can effect you in many ways.  On one level, there is the pleasure of scent preferences enjoyed.  And then, there is the aromatherapy– this is the magic of pure plant essential oils.  What a gift mother nature has given us.  Just by smelling the bounty of her plants, your brain and nervous system are positively benefited through  feelings of  relaxation and upliftment.  What a great way to give yourself some love or share the with others!

But what happens when you have a candle scented with “fragrance” or “fragrance oils”.  The word fragrance includes a includes a whole host of chemicals you, your loved ones and the people involved in the production of these candles should not be breathing in, such as phthalates.  Phthalates are endocrine system disruptors, among other unsavory ill effects.

Even if you get a candle from the healthfood store, I would still check to see if they are made with essential oils or fragrances.  I have seen the term, “natural fragrance oil”.   Is there such thing as  natural, non-toxic fragrance that is not an essential oil?  Maybe. I have yet to do more research on this, but here is a preliminary teaser:    http://www.bathbodysupply.com/category-s/34.htm .

If you find a company that you feel may be wholesome and has the words “natural fragrance” listed as an ingredient,  ask them for the complete list of ingredients that make up their “fragrance” .  You can research those ingredients online to see if they are safe to use.

Choose organic and/or non-GMO soy candle wax and essential oils

I am holding a soy candle made by Sunbeam Candles.  It is a tall, white, unscented pillar candle with an 80 hour burn time.  Having purchased it a few weeks ago, my boyfriend and I have enjoyed its  glowing warm light many times as we meditate, share intimacy or wind down for bed.  The truly nifty thing about this lovely candle is that the soy it contains is non-GMO.

Why buy non-GMO and/or organic?  My heart tells me for the love of all life, to support agricultural practices in harmony with the intelligent, life-sustaining system of nature.  In nature there is biodiversity; each organism supports the whole of the ecosystem.  One organism’s waste is another’s food .  This flow and order that has evolved over millions of years to perpetuate the thriving of life.  Let’s be part of it.

To get, briefly, more technical (I will be writing more on this later), over 80% of GMO crops are modified to help them withstand heavy-duty sprayings of herbicides.  This creates herbicide-resistant “super weeds” and  “super bugs” that are very hard to kill.  These type of farming practices are not in harmony with nature.  These chemicals that kill weeds and pests are also harmful to humans and the eco system.  Not to mention, this type of farming also includes the use of  of artificial fertilizers.  Artificial fertilizers, create nitrogen run-off that flows into streams, rivers and ultimately coastal waters, causing excessive algae bloom and decomposition which depletes oxygen from the oceans and ends up killing the marine life.

Stayed tuned for Part Two of this article, arriving in the next day or so!  More valuable, important information regarding  people and earth- loving candle choices will be explored.   Happy Valentine’s day from my heart to yours!

The One Thing Even More Important for Your Diet Than Healthy Food

Well being starts from within.

Well being starts from within.

Have you ever been fatigued, under the weather or in less than optimal health, for an extended time, in spite of a very healthy diet?

A while back, I had this on and off slight sinus infection or slight scratchiness of the throat for several months.   At the time, I was on a protocol for a non-related health issue, taking heavy duty immune boosters and antioxidants.  I had also increased my vegetable intake,  reduced my sugar intake and was eating very little gluten and dairy (I was supposed to have none, but I cheated occasionally.) As a health foodie,  in general, I eat predominately organic and unrefined foods. So, experiencing frequent under-the-weatherness did not make sense to me.

There were times that I thought I wasn’t eating perfectly enough.  I, also, thought that I might have a hidden food or environmental allergy/sensitivity.  I felt like the proverbial mule chasing the dangling carrot– if only I had more self-control and ate more purely.  If could limit my dark chocolate intake to twice a week and have gluten/dairy once or twice a month, then all would be well.  But something in that pursuit of perfection didn’t feel right to me.  It felt kind of like an admonishing authority figure taking up real estate in my head or like a skipping record playing  the same message over and over again, but not being effective.  It didn’t feel flowing and expansive.  I realized my focus was in the wrong direction in helping myself.

There have been times in my life where I have eaten more gluten, dairy and sweet treats while taking no immune supportive and antioxidant supplements.  And guess what?  I rarely got slightly under-the-weather or full-blown sick.  Connecting the dots and feeling into the natural intuitive gifts we all possess, I realized that my state of being was the prime cause of of my reoccurring experience of feeling “slightly” not well.

Our state of being (thoughts, emotions and, ultimately, the way we perceive reality) is something we eat 24-7.  Let’s face it, everything  is energy.  This is a scientific fact proven by quantum physics. So, when we are experiencing chronic underlying tension in our lives, that is a particular energy effecting our denser energy– i.e. our physical body.  I firmly believe one could eat the most PERFECT diet (whatever that means to you) and if your general state of being is not supportive and nurturing to you,  your body will be negatively impacted.  To me, while a healthy diet is very powerful, a healthy state of being is even more powerful.

That said, once I realized that perfecting my diet was not going to solve my sinus/throat issues, I started to look within.  I started to realize that I was experiencing a chronic, subtle tension in my life: not feeling nurtured by my romantic relationship.  Not sure how to deal with it, I focused on my life-purpose goals instead.  I didn’t want to say the same things over and over again to my beloved partner like a broken record to no avail, so I unsuccessfully tried to clear my frustrations on my own.  Eventually,  I noticed I wasn’t being honest with myself or my partner.  Being honest was scary and might have meant some big changes I felt unprepared for. Looking back, it’s no wonder that my physical symptoms were showing up in the mouth area, our primary means of expression.

I started to realize our lives are holistic.  If one part of our life isn’t flowing well, it effects the whole.  It was totally silly of me to explore following my heart in my career life while not dealing with my heart in my intimate life, as if they were separate entities. So, one day, I just couldn’t take it anymore and with mutually prayerful intentions, my partner and I candidly shared our needs, frustrations and what each of us wanted to create romantically, like really shooting for the stars, rather than just settling for “good enough” or tolerable.  As I shared from my most heart-felt authentic place and listened deeply,  I felt intense sensations in my upper chest and also where my neck connects with my jaw.  These sensations were sharp, like electrical currents that suddenly fired. I also started to feel a big pressure on the roof of my mouth.  Although a bit painful, all of these sensations felt positive, like a heavy weight was finally being released.  Ahhhhhh. I started to feel physically and emotionally better.

So, if your state of being can either nourish you like a healthy delicious meal or leave you feeling clogged, jittery and uncomfortable like eating a whole box of cookies in one sitting, how can you better take care of your state of being?  Do you take time to just be?  Do you meditate?  Do you give yourself time to digest and process the happenings in your life and to become present to what you truly feel? Do you take walks in the park or in nature?  Do you move and exercise your body in ways that feel good and free up the flow in your body? Are you able to express and explore your true feelings with both yourself and your loved ones? Are you a good listener?   Do you love the work you do? If not, are you committed to exploring what a nurturing work life would look like for you and to take steps to create that?

As you take time to nurture you state of being, be freely expressed, and listen more deeply to yourself and others, your thoughts, emotions and perceptions of reality will naturally change, thus making a healthy change to your energetic diet.  So, tune into yourself right now.  What, in this moment, would be the most yummy and supportive for you?  Maybe, you’re stressed and you just need to scream into your pillow.  Maybe, you just want to take some deep,  heart-felt  breaths.  Or maybe, you have an overwhelming urge to take a walk and gaze at the moon.  Trust whatever comes to you and enjoy a healthier life lived more fully, moment to moment.

Recommended Movie: Dirt!

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It’s no secret; documentaries are my favorite genre of movies, especially those that address environmental issues in an inspiring and empowering way. Dirt! is no exception. I watched this movie a second time (the first time was about 2 years ago), because I knew I wanted to share about it in an articulate way.

Dirt! explores the importance of soil to the entire well-being of the planet, people included. If the Earth is Gaia, a living entity unto itself, then dirt is the skin of this beautiful creature. And, hello, we are part of this living entity, made up of the same elements that are in the soil. Anything that harms the soil, harms us.

I learned many amazing things from this vibrant movie (with cute little micro-organism animations, to boot), like the ills of monocrops and artificial fertilizers, how desertification is caused and how conventional farming methods have led to poverty rather than feeding the world as they have proclaimed. Artificial fertilizers, for example, used in conventional monocrop farms, have a nitrogen run-off that flows into streams, rivers and ultimately coastal waters, causing excessive algae bloom and decomposition which depletes oxygen from the oceans and ends up killing the marine life.

While Dirt! brings much needed awareness as to how certain human practices, such as the use of artificial fertilizers, are not sustainable to the health of the planet and its people, it also provides inspiration and solutions, as every good documentary should.

Enjoy!

http://www.thedirtmovie.org/

THRIVE: recommended movie

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Dear Reader, as I take steps to launch a green lifestyle business where I help individuals make healthier, greener choices and, ultimately, make a difference on this planet, I was struck by many questions.  How do we, as citizens of the planet, create global change?  Why are we still dependent on petroleum and what can we do about that?  It seems strange to me that with advanced technologies like the latest smart-phone or the ability to send space probes to Mars or the latest warfare technologies (yikes!), that we still don’t have affordable, completely clean energy vehicles on the market or that conventional gas cars even still exist.

With these questions brewing inside me, I decided ask my Facebook friends, if there were any books or movies they could recommend about” how change is made on a more global scale.” One person recommended, THRIVE: What On Earth Will It Take?  I had been recommended that movie before, even though I didn’t know what it was about, so I set out to watch it that evening.  It can be seen for free on YouTube.

For me, watching THRIVE was life-changing and the missing puzzle piece, shining a light on the root of many of our world issues, including the environment, while also sharing the solutions, because who wants to be given a lot of problems and feel fearful and helpless?  We want to know how we can make a difference.

To see a synopsis of the movie, please go to:

http://www.thrivemovement.com/the_movie

Vanishing of the Bees: recommended movie

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This synopsis is quoted directly from the “Vanishing of the Bees” website:

“Honeybees have been mysteriously disappearing across the planet, literally vanishing from their hives. Known as Colony Collapse Disorder, this phenomenon has brought beekeepers to crisis in an industry responsible for producing apples, broccoli, watermelon, onions, cherries and a hundred other fruits and vegetables. Commercial honeybee operations pollinate crops that make up one out of every three bites of food on our tables. Vanishing of the Bees follows commercial beekeepers David Hackenberg and Dave Mendes as they strive to keep their bees healthy and fulfill pollination contracts across the U.S. The film explores the struggles they face as the two friends plead their case on Capital Hill and travel across the Pacific Ocean in the quest to protect their honeybees. Filming across the US, in Europe, Australia and Asia, this documentary examines the alarming disappearance of honeybees and the greater meaning it holds about the relationship between mankind and mother earth. As scientists puzzle over the cause, organic beekeepers indicate alternative reasons for this tragic loss. Conflicting options abound and after years of research, a definitive answer has not been found to this harrowing mystery.”

For more information:

http://www.vanishingbees.com

 

 

 

From Fall To Winter: a personal journey

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As autumn progressed, I found aspects of my existence literally falling away, like the leaves on the trees, revealing deeper structures and patterns in my life. Mid-autumn, I lost my job and gained time to explore my passions. With “not enough time” no longer being an excuse, I began to explore my resistance, procrastination, fear and confusion around taking these big steps to living life in the image of my heart and being able to financially sustain myself with it.

As autumn came closer to winter, my beloved, precious cat, who gave the most amazing heart-to-heart hugs, got rapidly sicker and sicker and then passed away. As sad as it was and as much as I deeply miss her, it felt like a rite of passage. I learned that death really wasn’t death, but a transition. After she physically left, I felt the presence of her essence in my life continue on, like a guiding light, encouraging me to go for “big joy”.

More things fell away, or at least have been begun to, like my need to control the moment and my believing the stories in my head that keep me stuck, helpless and in despair. As these things begin to shed away and I am more fully present, it is like I am stepping into a new dimension, where problems are being solved, except not from the mind that created them. More accurately, it is like I have given up trying to solve any of it and have allowed a deeper, greater force to fill me and guide me.

And now it is winter. Ahhhhh, winter. In the nakedness of tree branches, patterns reveal themselves to me, like the dynamic between myself and a beloved family member that was disempowering for both of us and also the love and desire for both of us to create our precious connection differently.

The other day, I was at the park with my mother. I laid in the snow, feeling the vital life force of the earth. Going deeper, I felt into the essence of winter. I looked up at the bareness of the tree branches, some lined softly with snow, and felt such deep peace. Their quietness and delicacy, not bursting with life and green, spoke to me of slowing down and letting go of the clutter in life to go within, and ultimately, birth something new. The snow I laid on felt like a hibernating blanket insulating the ground and preparing for the new life to blossom through in the Spring. I felt the water from the snow seep into the ground and nourish the soil, like streams of life that carry on, even in the cold.

Happy Winter!

Sustainable Christmas Tree Choices

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I have mixed feelings everytime I pass Christmas Tree vendors. On one hand, I love the Earthy smell of pine and the beautiful flourish of evergreen colors filling my vision. On the other hand, I look at the tree trunks cut off abruptly before the roots and  feel a little sad for the trees, once deeply rooted, majestic and bursting with life, that are now destined to wither away after a few festive weeks of viewing pleasure. But don’t let me put a damper on your holiday spirit.  I know decorating and enjoying a Christmas Tree can be a beautiful experience.  That said, there are green options for everyone, even people like me who would prefer a potted tree.

Plastic versus Real Trees: which is better for the environment and healthier for you?

I would vote, hands down, for real trees for multiple reasons:

  • Plastic trees are made from petroleum.  Oil drilling is very risky for the environment (think oil spills).  Oil is a non-renewable resource. And, once your plastic Christmas tree becomes old and ratty,  it is destined for a landfill and will not bio-degrade.  Plus, landfill space is finite.  Do we really need to create more garbage than is necessary?  However, if you already have a artificial tree, enjoy it while it lasts.  If it is still usable when you are done with it, find a local charity donate it to.   There may also be recycling possibilities available in your area. Please know, however, that each time plastic is recycled, it downgrades in quality, until it is un-recyclable and ends up in the landfill anyway.
  • Real trees do not have to go to a landfill (in a landfill they would take a VERY  long time to biodegrade).   Personally, if I had a few acres of wooded land, I would just let my Christmas tree become food for microorganisms.  However, for many urbanites like myself, “treeycling” would be the best option.   According to Earth911, “Recycled trees are most commonly used for mulch, erosion protection, habitat creation and shoreline stabilization.” To find out if tree reycling resources are in your area, go to:   http://earth911.com/news/2011/12/27/how-to-recycle-your-christmas-tree/
  • Several known carcinogens, including dioxin, ethylene dichloride and vinyl chloride, are generated during the production of PVC (a major component of artificial Christmas trees), polluting neighborhoods and ecosystems located near factory sites. Most of those factory sites are actually in China, where 85 percent of the artificial trees sold in North America are made. Labor standards in China do not adequately protect workers from the dangerous chemicals they are handling.  Not to mention, fake trees often contain lead.
  • Real trees are more pleasurable to look at and also emit phytoncides (wood essential oils) which are beneficial to our health on many levels (think aromatherapy).  More information is available in the book, “Your Brain On Nature”. 
  • According to Earth911, “A single farmed tree absorbs more than 1 ton of CO2 throughout its lifetime. With more than 350 million real Christmas tress growing in U.S. tree farms alone, you can imagine the yearly amount of carbon sequestering associated with the trees. Additionally, each acre of trees produces enough oxygen for the daily needs of 18 people.” 
  • My initial concern about Christmas tree farms was that it could mean the destruction of ecosystems, particularly,  if forests were cleared so Christmas trees could be grown.  However, according to the New York Times, “Christmas tree farms also help preserve farmland and green space, particularly near densely populated urban areas where pressure for development is intense.”  Additionally, Mike Garrett, owner and operator of a Christmas tree farm in Sussex, N.J. said,  “It allows people with land that may not be the best farmland to have a crop that they can actually make a profit on, and not be under pressure to sell out to developers.”   
  • One of the downsides, many green-tip websites are quick to point out, is the carbon footprint from driving to get a real Christmas tree every year, as opposed to once every 10 years for a fake tree.  But really, is one extra errand a year going to make or break your carbon footprint? And, what if, you ran some other errands along the way to your Christmas tree-shopping, making it a very efficient trip?  I think it’s more about all of us  investing in greener transportation modes (the greenest we are able to afford) that reduce our overall impact or are carbon neutral, which has a much larger positive impact, than one less errand. 
  • Another downside is that many Christmas tree farms use pesticides and artificial fertilizers, which are not good for surrounding eco-systems, nor for your health.  However, depending on where you live, you may be able to purchase an organically raised Christmas tree. Here are some green resources websites that can help you in your search for a sustainable Christmas tree or any other sustainable products your heart could desire:
  1. localharvest.org
  2. toxicfreenc.org
  3. beyondpesticides.org
  4. greenpromise.com

Here is a (somewhat) local Christmas tree farm serving the NYC area:

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Buying  a Living Tree

If you want to go uber green or cut trees just make you a little sad, opt to buy a Christmas tree with its roots still intact.  Keep in mind, however, that a living tree can only be indoors for about a week, lest it  “wake up” and begin to grow again in the warmth of your home. If this happens there is a good chance the tree will not survive once it is replanted in the cold winter outdoors. You would also need to gently transition the tree indoors for about two weeks beforehand, inside a garage or enclosed porch.  You would need to put the tree back in the enclosed porch or garage after its week indoors to gently transition it back outside.  For more information on buying and caring for a living tree, go to:

http://www.hgtv.com/gardening/how-to-care-for-your-living-christmas-tree/index.html

A few online articles also mentioned keeping the tree in a pot for a few years so it can be reused as a Christmas tree again.  I assume that they mean a smaller potted Christmas trees that wouldn’t quickly outgrow the ability to fit indoors.  I also assume that the tree would live outdoors in a pot when it is not the holiday season:

http://eartheasy.com/give_sustainchristmas.htm

Last, but not least, I am teleported back to childhood, when we had our first  “Christmas tree”.  Well, it was not really a Christmas tree in the traditional sense; it was my mom’s potted Norfolk Pine houseplant that was suddenly transformed into an exotic, four foot Christmas marvel.   Needless to say, Peanutbutter, our fluffy tan and white cat, could not resist climbing the Norfolk Pine, which bowed under his robust weight,  to retrieve Christmas ornaments dangling off it.  We later found the said ornaments floating and sparkling in the toilet.  On that note, may your holiday be warm, wonderful, magical and perhaps, even a little bit playfully mischievous!

Nature Doesn’t Rush

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One of the things, that my boyfriend and I seek to do is to enjoy play-dates in nature.  Back in early October, we hadn’t had a nature excursion for over a month. During that span of time, things had become a bit strained between us.  It seemed like, despite our best intentions to nurture ourselves and our relationship, much of our time spent together was logistical and stressful.  As we strained to get the cooking, cleaning, pet-care, errands, work and commuting done, we weren’t present to each other.   It seems kind of crazy that is the norm in our society—being varying degrees of spread thin.

That said, our relationship was feeling very blah.  However, we finally made plans to enjoy one of the last summer-like days of the season at the ocean.  As we drove in the ride-share car out of Queens into Long Island, it felt like the energy between us lightened.   As soon as I got to the ocean, away from NYC, I just felt different.   The energy of the ocean was rhythmic and soothing.  I felt it like a vital force that filled my being.  I felt my heart open and my purpose become clearer.  The forgotten magic flowed between my partner and I again.  Once out of the energy of have-to, chores, work (neither of us make $ at our passions yet) and time-constraint, the love, understanding and playfulness was there clear and strong.

The very next day, the magic, non-rushed energy started to disappear.  I saw my partner’s face look distracted and no longer present, as he mulled over work plans and time seemed, yet again, constrained.  He had to go to work, even though he had intended to take the day off.  However, he still wanted to go out for tea with me beforehand and also do a playful power-walk/jog.  I wanted to eat before we had tea.  I looked up at the clock beginning to calculate how much time would be needed to do dishes, cook, eat, go for a walk-jog and then have tea.  I felt like there was very little time and that I must rush (on my day off, no less).  I instantly started to feel nauseous.  It had never been so clear before.  I was off course.

You see, nature doesn’t rush.  We have designed our society  in many ways contrary to nature and our own true nature.  And that is the adventure and passionate challenge I have set out to explore—creating a life nurturing to me and inspiring others to do the same, where we share our gifts and live in harmony with the Earth.